From sexy wish lists to bedroom board games, how you can fall back in lust – like Kourtney Kardashian & her ‘sex fast’
THEY are the celebrity couple who want you to know just how hot they are – snogging in public, draping limbs around each other, even licking one another’s feet. So it may come as a surprise to learn that Kourtney Kardashian and fiance Travis Barker keep the magic alive by NOT having sex. Reality TV’s […]
THEY are the celebrity couple who want you to know just how hot they are – snogging in public, draping limbs around each other, even licking one another’s feet.
So it may come as a surprise to learn that Kourtney Kardashian and fiance Travis Barker keep the magic alive by NOT having sex.
Reality TV’s Kourtney, 42, recently revealed she and Blink-182 rocker Travis, 46, had undertaken an Ayurvedic cleanse, which meant no sex or orgasms for 12 days.
And she reckons the US pair’s sex fast worked so well she would recommend it to anyone who wants to reignite the spark.
She said: “Oh my God, it was crazy. It made everything better. Like, if you can’t have caffeine, when you have your first matcha, it’s so good.”
It’s certainly working, judging by her Instagram.
Her posts show the couple touching tongues on the red carpet, entwined in various states of undress and sucking each other’s fingers.
It seems celebs are just like us, unable to rely on lust lasting for ever, and that we could learn a thing or two from them about how they remedy this.
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Singer Justin Bieber, 28, often posts his appreciation for model wife Hailey Baldwin, 25, on social media – once commenting on one of her sexy Instagram pictures, “u turn me on”.
Love Islanders Molly-Mae Hague and Tommy Fury, both 22, love a flirt, with her recently posting: “Good Friday appreciation post of me and my best friend . . . Just obsessed with you.” Tommy replied: “I love you my baby.”
And whenever This Morning host Holly Willoughby buys a new pair of shoes, she road-tests them in the bedroom first, during sex with husband Dan Baldwin.
Holly, 41, said: “I love wearing new shoes during sex – and not just because it’s kinky. I do enjoy saucy games with my hubby, but I have found the best way to break in new shoes is to wear them during sex.
“It’s become a sort of rule whenever I get a new pair of shoes. I always wear them in the bedroom, during the sex act, before I take them outside.”
These famous couples are still very much in love and sexpert Annabelle Knight says there is no reason a long-term relationship should be lacking in that honeymoon magic.
Here’s Annabelle’s guide for how YOU can make like the stars and give your relationship that kiss of life.
Old holiday pics are a passport to pleasure
PORING over holiday snaps might not sound like the passport to pleasure but a trip down memory lane could remind you why you fell for each other in the first place.
Print out some photos of the two of you away together, in the early days, and set aside an evening to go through them together.
Remembering different times of your relationship will help you to see how far you’ve come, as well as allowing you to identify the strengths you have as a couple.
Laughing at old memories will also release serotonin and oxytocin – feel-good hormones that will help you form a deep bond.
A recent survey revealed we have more adventurous sex when on holiday.
So why not recreate that vacation vibe with some tapas and sangria and see where the night takes you?
At least you won’t have to deal with sand in awkward places if you’re not on holiday for real.
Create a sexy wish list
Many couples forget how to communicate with each other.
Even if you’ve been with your partner forever, it doesn’t mean they should automatically know what you like between the sheets.
As we grow our likes and desires change.
The best way to get what you want is to tell them, but if you struggle to find the words – after all we’re apparently a nation of prudes – I’ve got the perfect solution.
Get 14 pieces of paper, split them between you and your partner and write a sexy wish list.
It can range from the sweet and innocent, such as your partner nuzzling your neck, to the more erotic, like a kinky role play scenario.
Don’t show each other see what you‘ve written then fold the pieces of paper up and put them into separate jam jars.
Every night, open one each and fulfil each other’s wish until you’ve completed them all over the course of the week.
As Kourtney says doesn’t always have to be about the physical act of having sex that keeps the spark alive.
Write an erotic story together
WE all loved playing the game Consequences as kids so why not give it a bit of a naughty makeover?
Each of you starts with a blank piece of paper and writes down who, what, how, where, when and why.
Take it in turns swapping the paper as you write a few lines under each heading.
You can detail your fantasy sex scenario but it’s OK not to take it too seriously, and add a bit of humour.
Read the stories aloud to each other and it’s sure to provide you with a happy ending.
Recreate a sexy movie moment
Movies and TV can prove a great source of inspiration for romance.
Everyone remembers that iconic pottery wheel scene in the film Ghost with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore.
Playing with clay can be a real sensual experience so try booking into a class together.
Or how about a dance class – just leave the Dirty Dancing lift to the experts – as all that close physical contact will provide plenty of foreplay for later and ensure you have the time of your life.
They don’t call it the Strictly curse for nothing.
Learning a new skill together will bring you closer together as a couple emotionally and physically.
Try a sex ban
KOURTNEY and Travis are the latest to try this but it also worked for Abbey Clancy and Peter Crouch.
The model imposed one while training for Strictly Come Dancing in 2013 – and said after winning the glitterball trophy: “Let’s just say Peter’s looking forward to having me back.”
Swearing off sex may seem odd if trying to bring back the spark, but the saying “good things come to those who wait” is true, and knowing you can’t have sex makes for heady anticipation then great release.
It works best if you give each other some space.
The pandemic has meant we’ve all spent a lot more time with loved ones, but this can be a turn-off.
Gwyneth Paltrow and husband Brad Falchuck even lived in separate houses for the entire first year of their marriage.
So get glammed up, head out with a pal and send your other half sexy selfies to build the sexual tension.
Pop a pill (no, not the blue one)
YOU don’t need to book a five-star sunshine getaway to the Maldives to enjoy time together, but a change of scenery can work wonders for your romance levels.
An added bonus is the positive anticipation that planning a little trip will build.
Looking forward to something together helps to increase intimacy and makes you feel closer as a couple.
Vitamin D is known as the “sunshine” vitamin and can be absorbed from the sun or by popping a pill during winter.
It’s vital for looking after not only our brains, bones and immune systems but our libido too.
So there’s no need for that little blue pill.
Beat boredom with a board game
THESE days we’re spoilt for choice when it comes to TV and many couples spend the evening slobbing on the sofa, binge-watching a box set until late into the night.
It’s no wonder there’s a lack of lust in your relationship.
Make a rule that one night of the week you hide the remote control and dig out one of your favourite board games to play together – but with a naughty twist.
Whether you choose Snakes And Ladders, Cluedo or Trivial Pursuit, the same rule applies – every time one of you loses, you must remove an item of clothing.
You can also get “adult” board games aimed at improving sexual communication.
Try the six-second snog
AS teens we snog for hours, as we were too young for anything else, but when we age we often forget the joy of kissing and head straight to sex.
The “six-second kiss” is a simple and fun activity that American psychologist Dr John Gottman recommends couples incorporate into their everyday moments.
It’s a way to connect mentally and physically, and reduces stress hormone cortisol while hiking love hormone oxytocin.
It improves your kissing – and may lead to sex.
If looking for a chance for a six-second smooch, look no further than your kettle – once the water boils, it’s time for you to get hot too.
Have a quickie
WHILE some might say it’s quality and not quantity that matters, I might beg to differ.
Couples often blame tiredness for lacklustre libido – who’s going to want to spend hours perfecting their tantric sex moves when they can barely keep their eyes open?
Instead, opt for a quickie because it can be a great way to reignite passion if strapped for time.
Pick a time when you have energy, like first thing in the morning before the kids wake.
Remember, the aim of the game is mutual pleasure and satisfaction, and so communication during your quickie is key.
Look into each other’s eyes
NOW, stay with me on this one because some people find it awkward to start with.
This is all about reconnecting on a mental and emotional level with your partner.
All you need to do is look into their eyes and have them look into yours.
Couples who do this for at least ten minutes a week found that their stress levels eased.
They also noticed they felt a higher level of compassion toward their partner, and enjoyed greater intimacy and more satisfied sex.
So, suddenly, looking into your partner’s eyes doesn’t seem silly.
