Stay-at-home dad sparks debate after charging his wife for the baking he does while she’s at work – but who’s right?
A STAY-AT-HOME dad has sparked a debate online after revealing he wants to charge his wife for baking. He explained he was a full-time dad and was able to quit work thanks to his wife’s well-paying job. The man took anonymously to Reddit and prefaced his question saying “I know it sounds horrible but please […]
A STAY-AT-HOME dad has sparked a debate online after revealing he wants to charge his wife for baking.
He explained he was a full-time dad and was able to quit work thanks to his wife’s well-paying job.
The man took anonymously to Reddit and prefaced his question saying “I know it sounds horrible but please consider my case.”
The 29-year-old said his wife had a good job and family wealth, which meant he could quit his job and look after their two children and pick up occasional work when it suited his schedule.
He explained: “Over time I have become more interested in baking.
“My sister-in-law (F26) introduced me to the hobby and we bake together as and when we can while watching the kids.
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“In order to help each other and have the cousins bond we usually jointly co-parent at each others’ houses.”
The pair had recently got into baking fancier things, and his wife started sharing them with her colleagues at work.
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Now his wife, 30, wants them to bake the fancier goods, which are expensive and time-consuming, regularly for her friends at work.
He added that with the time it takes to bake them, he would have to give up his part-time work and so he would also be losing out on money.
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The dad thought it was only fair that ‘since we are kinda doing things more than just for the family, it is only fair that we get compensated for it.’
But his wife didn’t agree and laughed at him when he asked for payment.
She told him that she is already providing everything and that he have no need for my own money anyway.
The mum also said that her husband needs to prioritise her career and professional goals over his since she is the breadwinner.
He added: “I told my SIL the next day (i.e. today) and while she wasn’t mad she felt I was being insane by wanting to charge my wife.”
People who saw the post were completely divided – some took the dad’s side while others said he shouldn’t charge his wife.
One wrote: “It is one thing to have her occasionally bring your baked goods to the office and an entirely different thing to expect you to maintain a steady supply. This is what I would call a side business and you are entitled to compensation for your work. The genders do not matter here as it’s work, time, and money involved. Your wife is taking advantage of you.”
“Financial independence is an important thing. You are supposed to be your wife’s partner, not her live-in baker.” Another commented.
A third agreed: “her complete hand-wave and dismissal of anything you might want is pretty concerning. That’s not how one speaks to someone they respect as a true partner.”
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Others disagreed though, one added: “pretty sure your wife is the last person you should charge for something like this, especially with her as the primary money-maker.”
“Stop using your wife. You can also come up with a new schedule so your part-time job or whatever it is doesn’t have to be dropped.” Another added.